“The having of an experience comes after you vibrationally achieve the essence of it. The essence of it is the vibration of it.
The experience of it is the manifestation of it. So the essence of it is finding the feeling place of it. So when we say find the feeling place of a relationship, sometimes people go to work on imagining the relationship and all it does is make them feel more lonely in their moment which is not getting the job done.
What you are wanting to do is pay attention to way you feel and watch for the evidence of things that feel like the essence of what you want.
Because when you feel that you are locked onto your signal- which sometimes means change the subject, which sometimes means watch a couple in a restaurant, which sometimes means remember your favorite part in a movie you watched, which sometimes means turn on the television and rendezvous with something that causes that to resonate within you, which sometimes means remembering a little piece of a relationship that you had ten years ago, which sometimes means going to your fantasy, which sometimes means just enjoying the pizza you are eating right now and the perfection of your life that’s happening altogether apart from that specific subject.
You could pet your cat and bring your partner in!
You just CAN’T focus upon the ABSENCE of your partner and bring your partner in.” – Abraham Hicks